Yesterday I got an email that truly stunned me. A guy I'll call Zot (not even pretending to cover his identity) sent me an email asking me not to advertise the unofficial Thursday dinner club on the McLean Singles listserve. His reason? Too many "old people" are showing up at "his" dinner since I started sharing the info. I pointed out that since I started posting the info on my list about 10 people have started attending the dinner. And only one time did any "old" people show up. His response? He liked the dinner better when only 6 people showed up. At this point I brought in "Parley" (again, not hiding anything here) on this discussion. After all, according to Parley, it's his activity and his listserve. But if you ever talk to Parley about it, he's reather communal about such things, and all things belong to all people.
I was sure to tell Zot that I had no intention of stopping my advertising, but I would be happy to point out in the emails about the dinner that it is intended for the Mid-Singles.
His response? He removed me from the Mid-Singles listserve (where I get the info from).
Here's my problem with everything-
1. Who the hell does he think he is telling me what I can or can't do?
2. Parley's suggestion- we call all the old people and let them know they aren't invited. Let me make this clear- that is the rudest thing I have ever heard of.
3. This is NOT by any means an official activity. It is an unofficial gathering of people at the same place and time every week. If that is always made clear, and that is the premise, how can there suddenly be rules for it?
Other details- I completely understand this is "their" dinner. But the minute they made it public on any listserve, it became public doman and public knowledge. You cannot regulate how people choose to use that info.
And while I am actually all in favor of activities for the older singles and for the mid- and younger singles, I would never ever consider telling someone that they are too old (or too young) to attend anything. That is just plain wrong.
How did I handle this situation? I just sent an email out to my full McLean Singles listserve explaining why they won't get the weekly email about dinner anymore. And posted Zot's email address where they can send any thoughts or comments on it. Was that juvenile of me? Probably. Do I care? No.
Your thoughts and comments are most welcome.
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