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Car bombs, hospitals, and muckrakers

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I've been spending my days and my nights at the hospital with my grandmother. She's doing much, much better now. She has good days, and she's had some bad days. A few days ago we had a very bad day on my watch. I had requested they give her a mild painkiller because she was showing several signs of discomfort. I was assured it was very mild and would have few side effects, not even drowsiness. I've taken the same drug, and had no reactions as well. She took it and settled down nicely. Later on she really started to scare me with some very disoriented remarks. She told me to ask my deceased grandfather a question (really upsetting me), told me to put a blanket on the phone, and some other scary non-sequitors. She was falling asleep every few minutes, and waking right back up. I got very worried and asked for help. Turns out the nurses were wrong and the drug can make a person quite loopy and does cause marked drowsiness. So all my fears were taken care of. Once the dru…

Relationship Week continues- Katrina Style!

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I'm happy to be bringing you another Relationship Week installment, this time from my life long friend Katrina. There are only a few people in this world I can say I have known since birth or toddler-hood- Katrina is one of them. She's always been a ton of fun, outspoken, a little crazy in the best of ways, insanely talented, musical like you wouldn't believe, and good to everyone. And my favorite part about her- she completely and in every way defines the old cliche "marches to the beat of her own drummer." Some people just think they are are unique and different, Katrina really is, and she's all the better for it. My favorite part about her? Her wedding cake! (See below.) Sixteen years later and I still remember thinking, "just how long do I have to wait to get married before I totally rip off her wedding cake?" I've always felt comfortable and loved when I visit her family's home. Her parents were well-known to me. Her dad was my early-mo…

Put on your big girl panties and deal with it!

In the past few weeks I have been hurt or insulted personally by people who claim to be my friend more times than I can count. I choose not to let it get to me. But still, it does wear a girl down.
My life revolves around serving others. It has since the day I lost my job 6 weeks ago. From the minute I get up to the minute I go to sleep, I have been helping others for the past 6 weeks. And I wouldn't have it any other way! And yet in that time, I've been accused of "playing," and unfairly "enjoying" my unemployment. I've been completely back-stabbed by someone. I was ripped off and hurt by someone I chose to help.
I've also been generously helped in uncommon ways. I've been able to enjoy the company of my family by serving them. Someone told me it was hard to feel sorry for me on unemployment because I'm enjoying myself! I don't feel like I should have to explain my every move, and justify my every expense to the world. But I will say t…

Relationships and Communications

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In college I studied communications. I took classes in interpersonal communications, mass comm, international comm, and more. (And I loved it. Just wish there was more you could do with that degree.) One of the key things we learned, and heard over and over again, was that "you cannot not communicate." The absence of a dispatched communication is still, nonetheless, a communication. You are choosing to communicate that you wish to not share information. It is still communication.
The next lesson we learned, and heard over and over again, is that all people have a relationship. Two people who declare to not be in a relationship, are in an undefined relationship. Two people who do not communicate with each other, are in a non-communicative relationship. All people are in a relationship. And the important thing in all communications, is to know what kind of relationship you are in, so that you can communicate effectively.
For instance,
News Radio DJ to listener= a relationship…

We interrupt this theme week...

I'm a little surprised that something as personal as love and relationships is what brings the critics out of the woodwork. I can't believe the number of negative comments! How rude! People share their personal love stories and people criticize?? Seriously, grow up people.
(oh and i've deleted the worst of the critics, because those people don't need to be documented or remembered.)
I'm enjoying relationship week. It has given me a lot to think about. Mostly just that every person's love story is unique. There is no magic formula for love and happiness. No, this wasn't a news flash for me. I've always known it. But sometimes, it is just nice to have it hit you back over the head again. In fact, I'm going to share a few more love stories this week. And if we get any more ridiculously critical negative comments I am going to post Taylor Swift's ridiculously awful "Love Story" song and video to punish you all.
But it is going to have to w…

Relationship week- Stephanie's not so straight path to the altar

Today we get the story of Stephanie of the Daily Blarg and Brian, and their not so perfect path to happiness. I love Stephanie and Brian's "flirting" on Twitter. It can get pretty mushy- if you are in to slankets, bunnies, and thursketti!
I should probably start this post with a disclaimer:  I took a difficult path to get to the most rewarding place.  While I would never recommend it for another soul, I wouldn't change a thing. To understand where I am you have to know where I came from... To keep this pretty "G" rated I will say that I had a very wild 4 months after turning 16.  I could blame it on so many things.  Complete lack of parental involvement.  Wanting so much to be loved.  But I like to attribute my promiscuity to the growth of an ample pair of breasts over the summer.  And really, I am completely accountable for my actions.  During this four months I bounced from one loser boyfriend to the next.  Because I mistook their interest in me as …
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Today's guest post is brought to you by Jenny or Jenndola as I know her. We only recently met via Twitter, and I liked the idea of picking a post from someone I hardly know, and who hardly knows me. She's has a "we met at BYU" story. Shocking, I know! She's another great example of being happy when we are not getting what we asked for. Righteous desires and being a good person doesn't equal getting everything you ever wanted. But I'll let Jenny explain that-

I'm Jenny, and this is the first guest post I've written, so please be gentle. I'm 34 and I've been married for 13 years (I accidentally typed "13 kids" there. Not even close.) to a man I refer to as "Car" in my posts. I've  been pregnant five really horrifying times, and we now have two boys, ages 4 and 2. I'm a part-time pharmacy tech/full-time mom who, in March, made a goal to blog every day for a year. I may, perhaps, be certifiably insane. I previousl…

LaurieBee falls in love- eventually

Today's guest post on relationships comes to you courtesy of internet friend, LaurieBee. I appreciate her taking the time to share her story with me. After 33.5 years of marriage, including children, unexpected deaths, and more, she knows a thing or two about making a marriage work. Here's her story on how she met, and eventually fell in love with, her husband.

It was my "young and dumb" years. I left home when I was 18 and moved to Sacramento. I was not active in church and had no intention of changing that status. Bitterness on that end abounded. My testimony remained strong (and that is not an oxymoron -- most inactive members are inactive for other reasons, contrary to popular belief). Occasionally, when the desire to go to church would hit, I would slip into the back of the chapel late for Sacrament meeting, and then leave prior to closing prayer to be long gone before anyone noticed me -- or so I thought.

Danny noticed. In fact, Danny notices eve…

Relationships- an interlude

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As I have been focusing on relationships this week, reading the stories, and even reading a few books on the subject, I've made an interesting self-discovery.
As mentioned previously, my history (for the past 7 years basically) has been I meet a guy, we flirt, he shows interest, usually there is no date, and I stay interested for months on end with things going nowhere. I hang on, passively interested, but never interested enough to do much about it, until the next guy comes along.
Here's what I realized today. I never really liked any of those guys enough to want to do more. I moved on when someone else interested me. In fact, I can't really recall the last time I got very excited about anyone. And let me tell ya, it is hard to get excited about guys in their 30s and beyond. They've got a spare tire, less hair on top, too much hair in other places, plenty of baggage, and they tend to have very egotistical pre-conceived notions about women. (I think if I could meet ju…

Relationship week continues- Steph on dating

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Today's relationship post comes to you courtesy of my awesome friend Steph. She's a 30-something newlywed. She married Mike (who really doesn't get a lot of playtime in this post) in February. (A wedding I would have loved to have been at, but I was holding babies in Haiti. Steph totally understood and forgave me.) I love Steph for her ability to be straight-forward on just about every and any subject. She doesn't mince words. Ever.

Enjoy!


“I'd love a piece from you on what you liked about dating, and what (if any) you would do differently. And anything else you want to say about dating/marriage/love in your 30s.”
That's the instruction I got from Erin when she asked me to appear as a guest blogger here. I have to start by saying, in all earnestness, that it is only with hindsight that I can identify any pattern in my dating or relationships so I don't proport to be an expert on the subject. Let's start at the beginning. I'll be frank—the thing I …

Conversations with Shenandoah

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I'm pretty sure I could write an entire blog based on nothing but the bewildering conversations with my 7 yr old cousin Shenandoah. This is one of my favorites from the weekend. 

Shenandoah: Where do you live?
Me: I live in Roanoke at Aunt Darla's house. The one with the yellow slide on the deck.
Shenandoah: Oh I like that house! Do you like to go down the slide?
Me: Well, I haven't been able to because there was a wasp nest inside of it and I had to fix it first.
Shenandoah: And did you fix it?
Me: Yes, it got fixed a few days ago.
Shenandoah (completely flabbergasted): But you haven't gone down the slide yet?
Me: No, I haven't had time to.
Shenandoah (shocked and stunned): Why? You don't have a job!

She makes a very valid point!

*Editor's Note* I have now gone down the slide. I have the rub burn on my elbow to prove it.

Heidi + Dave

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My first guest writer is my good friend Heidi. Not only is she the mother of two of my cuter fairy godchildren, she and I have been friends since our early-mid 20's together. She refers to the singles ward we were in together. I can still recall hearing she was leaving for a family ward and thinking, "she'll never get married now!" A few months later I ended up moving and ended up in the same ward as Dave. I was around throughout their VERY short courtship, and still remember instant messaging regularly with Heidi about Dave (including her telling me that Dave had told her he didn't want to get serious. We didn't talk for a few days, and then the next thing I heard from her was they were engaged! I was completely bewildered!). She's told me more times than I can count to read, "Men Made Easy." As a part of the lessons I am going to learn this week, I am going to finally go get the book and read it. I wouldn't mind finding and keeping a guy a…

Relationship Week begins

I am 35 years old and I have been dating for 19 years. It is time to start looking at it from a different point of view. Why? Well, what is the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over but expecting a different result? Well, sadly, that tends to be my feelings towards dating. So this week I have invited a few friends to write some guest posts about dating, marriage, and relationships. The goal here isn't just to learn more about what worked for other people, but also to appreciate the differences in relationships. At the end of the week I am going to attempt to write out what it is I want from a man/relationship.
I hope you enjoy the stories and advice this week. There are some fun ones!

I suck at flirting and meeting guys

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(pretty high up there on the list of worst pictures of me ever. and yet, so accurate.)
The more things change, the more they stay the same.
Different guy, same story.
Girl + boy = nothing
Overanalyzation = no conclusion

My love life pretty much never changes. The typical formula is I meet a nice guy. He's friendly, he flirts, he shows some interests (but never asks me out). I slowly but surely come around and get to the point where I actually like him. By then he's usually well into "friend zone." I then spend anywhere from one week to a year being really good friends with him, and over-analyzing every move and conversation. I'm so tired of it.

So there's a new-ish guy. Thankfully we're only a few weeks, okay maybe months, into this one. And I had my first ridiculous over-analyzation yesterday. We're not going through this again. I just don't care enough to repeat history- again!

And so before I do this all over again, we're going to take …

DC Girl

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Once upon a time there was a girl from the City. She left the City to go try states with much smaller cities. But her hometown kept pulling her back and one day she found herself back in her City. She parked her car at Pentagon City and hopped on the Yellow Line. She was headed to 11th and K. At Chinatown she made a mistake and forgot to switch to the Red Line to Metro Center, and exited the building. Doh! So wearing 3 inch heels, and her favorite suit, she walked 8 blocks in 95 degree weather to her interview. Ay yi yi.
After the interview, she was smart enough to get back on the Metro at Metro Center. And just like she had been doing her entire life, she got on the Orange Line to Vienna. It was at Farragut West that it occurred to her she wasn't going home. She was going back to PC where her car was- off the Yellow and Blue lines. So at Rosslyn she switched trains to Blue, and took the long way back.
To add insult to injury (the injury being the blisters from walking so far in f…

Summer Reading, Summer Fun

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My summer of free time has allowed me to do a great deal more reading than usual. And I LOVE it!
Here's a list of the books I'm carrying about with me these days-
1. We Talk of Christ, We Rejoice in Christ - Neal A Maxwell-
I normally love his books. (There are more in the pile.) This one (as always)  has a great message and lesson to be learned. However, the very unusual format to the book is frustrating to me, and isn't that enjoyable to read. It is taking me forever to get through this otherwise easy to read book.
2. Treasure Island - Robert Louis Stevenson
Did I mention yet that this would be a very eclectic reading list? "Little" and I are keeping our relationship alive and well by doing her summer reading together. I never read this one in school for some reason, so I'm reading it with her now. We both agree that the first 30 pages were brutal to get through and hard to understand. But I've finally hit a breaking point in it and am actually startin…

Peer into my crystal ball!

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My crystal ball is foggy. 
Will I get the second interviews?
Will I get a job offer?
Will I get the contract work?
Will I get a date with the nicest guy I've ever met?
Will I get the all important letter in the mail so I can finish my application?
Will I stick to my diet?
Will I achieve any of my big goals this week?
Will I get my column finished and submitted on time?
Will I find a job, get paid, and find a place to live before my unemployment coverage runs out?
Will I win the lottery? (oh wait, no, didn't play it)
Will I get the answers I've been looking for? 

So many things to think about. So many things to wonder about. So many things to not be able to plan for, but just hope for!

Star City

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Roanoke is not my hometown, but is close to it. This is the town where my extended family calls home. My great-great grandfather called it home. My grandmother still calls it home. There have been many generations of my family in this little town. But until recently it was never my home. We regularly came here to visit family throughout my life. But I never got to know the town. I knew my way to grandparents' house, my uncle's, my aunt's, even my great-grandmother's house. But I was never the driver, and never in charge of my own itinerary here. And so I really and truly do not know my way around this town!
Today I set out in search of beauty, scenery, architecture, and inspiration. And to find my way around this town just a little bit better.
Roanoke is also known as Star City, or the Star of the South. Why? Because it has a big huge star up on a mountain, shining over the city. Until today I had never been up to it before!
 At night this star is lit up and can be see…

Guest writers needed!

I'm looking for guest writers for a couple of things!

1. LDS Singles for my Meridian Magazine column. Do you have an interesting perspective on being LDS and single? I am looking for contributors!

2. Green Things- if you have any tips for gardening, eco-friendly living, being environmentally friendly, or anything green, I'd love to have you write a guest post for another project I'm working on.

Conversely, I'm looking for guest writing spots! Want to do a blog flip with me for a day? Let's talk!

Actual conversation

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The Setting- 6 pm, thunder, lightning, and rain.
Place- Our basement apartment

Sister- I'm going to go ride my horse for an hour.
Me- You know it is raining, right?
Sister- Yeah, it should be fun.
Me- So I take it we're not having a movie date in 30 minutes?
Sister- No, but we will later. Don't start it without me.
Me- You should bring ice cream home with you to make it up to me.
Sister- Okay. And pickles. See you later.

Social media and engagement marketing

Can a girl have too many blogs and websites? I sure hope not!
I've updated my oft-neglected Social Media and Engagement Marketing blog today. Its primary focus is educating small business owners how to use SMEM to leverage their businesses. I'll be making more of an effort to continue blogging there. After all, I am job hunting these days, and my blogs have proven to be great tools in that effort!
Hopefully next week I will be unveiling my new blog as well. I'm very excited about it, and it will be a complete departure from the usual!

Kings Dominion

Yesterday rocked! I got to spend the day at Kings Dominion with my cousin Karma and her family. The heat was a ridiculous 103 degrees, which I really wouldn't recommend for an amusement park. But it did keep the crowds away, which was nice! We rarely had to stand in a line for more than a few minutes, and we got to walk onto several rides. I used to go to KD at least once a season, but I haven't been in about 5 years I think. I was thrilled to see several new roller coasters I hadn't tried yet- the Dominator, the Volcano Blaster, the BackLot something or other, and the Intimidator 305. The BackLot whatever was down for the day, so I still haven't ridden that one. The Dominator is at the front of the park and quite a sight when you arrive. Naturally, we did that one first. And I LOVE IT. Definitely my new favorite ride. The Volcano Blaster rocked as well. I love "dangling feet" rides, and that one didn't disappoint.  But the story of the day? Getting freaki…

Actual conversation

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Older, mature, gray haired, grandmotherly saleslady: You want to be sure to latch your bra like this, it gives you more torque...  Obviously my breasts are store bought. [points] Right off that rack over there!

Apparently Victoria's secret is torque!

New articles up on the Examiner

I have two new stories up for the Examiner.
1- "Small" changes to the New Testament 
2- Beloved LDS artist Arnold Friberg passes away

I have 2 more articles this week in the works. One will be about popular LDS related websites. If you have one, or would like to suggest one, please let me know!

Declaration of Independence

"And for the support of this Declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of Divine Providence, we mutually pledge to each other our lives, our Fortunes, and our sacred Honor."

5 of the Signers were captured as traitors and tortured.
12 had their homes ransacked and burned.
2 lost their sons in the Revolutionary War, 2 others had their sons captured.
9 died from wounds from the hardships of war.

How have you honored these men today?

Fun in the summertime- with cousins!

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I took off on Thursday and Friday to go with my cousins up to Washington, DC for a little sight-seeing and a trip to the zoo. Have you noticed yet how much time I spend with my cousins now that I have moved to Roanoke? I have 40+ first cousins (the number grows greatly once you add in spouses and children). The majority of those cousins all live within an hour or so of Roanoke. So even though I have never lived here in Roanoke before, there is no shortage of people I know here! And I'm making up for living away for so long by spending time with everyone now!
This trip was with Karma and Ginny, plus their children. K & G are sisters, and their other sister Tami, lives up in the DC area. Karma and Ginny both have 3 children each, and I had lots of fun getting to know them all better. 
Some of the cuter moments and highlights!
 The beautiful Ginny!


 I have just told Petey (age 4) that alligators eat little boys for lunch. His reaction? "But I'm a good little boy!"


And he…